Purposes, Facts & Activities

Friends at the End is an organisation committed to promoting knowledge about end-of-life choices.


Death comes eventually to all of us & most people want to be allowed to die quietly & easily but unfortunately the dying process often means a lot of pain & distress to ourselves & to those around us.

Friends at the End meet in Glasgow on Saturday afternoons three times a year with a wide variety of speakers, sometimes doctors, nurses, health care professionals, sometimes speakers with a personal experience to relate. The gatherings are very friendly & relaxed, & question-time is always lively.

We have a Newsletter full of topical information of interest & full reports of our meetings & activities. Readers are welcome to write about any issues surrounding a good & peaceful death.

Friends at the End is an educational & caring society which maintains that each of us is entitled to a personal choice.


  • to promote knowledge about end-of-life choices & dignified death
  • to support those concerned about end-of-life choices & dignified death & to support those suffering from distress, especially that associated with the end of life
  • to advance medical education relevant to the processes of death & terminal illnesses
  • in furtherance thereof to fund research into the causes, cures & prevention of distress in the dying & those caring for them, & to publicly disseminate the outcome of such research
  • to act along with others in pursuit of the above


In literature many people die serenely in bed surrounded by their loved ones, or suddenly as if felled by a blow. The reality is often very different. Unless a massive stroke or other sudden event carries us off, we are most likely to suffer at the very least from double incontinence, vomiting, & other conditions which are repellent to ourselves & to others.

Within a medical framework death is often seen as a failure by medical practitioners & a struggle goes on to postpone death as long as possible whatever the embarrassment & suffering. Often sedation is used instead of painkillers & even hospices do not always understand that the patient would prefer not to endure the last hours, days, weeks or, even, months provided by modern medicine.


  • We provide speakers for secondary school classes in ethics & for any other gatherings.
  • We have a supply of leaflets on many topics.
  • We offer advice on Living Wills (also called Advance Directives) with sample forms.
  • We provide information on Scottish Welfare Powers of Attorney.
  • We have sample forms of Do Not Attempt Resuscitation for those who want it.
  • We provide information on NHS Trusts' policies on Living Wills & Do Not Attempt Resuscitation instructions.
  • We provide an advice & counselling service for those suffering distress caring for the dying.


  • Our members range in age from as young as 22 to some over 90 years old.
  • Names & addresses of members are totally confidential confined strictly to the elected Council.
  • Members receive notice of our meetings held, usually, in October, February & May.
  • Members receive a copy of the four-monthly Newsletter which always covers a report of our meetings for those who are unable to attend.
  • Members have access to a great deal of advice & information on all aspects surrounding end of life.
  • The Society has a collection of books & videos available for members to borrow.
  • Over the last few years there have been an increasing number of public debates on the subject of voluntary euthanasia & physician-assisted suicide.
  • Books written by health professionals involved with life & death issues providing an insight into the practicalities of caring for patients, both physically & emotionally, are available on loan.
  • Non-members who would like to be invited to our open meetings, please let us know.